The decorations were complete. The dresses were pressed and ready. The tuxedos were hanging neatly in the guys’ room. All the bouquets and boutonniere were ready to be pinned. The rehearsal the night before had gone more smoothly than I could have ever imagined. Most of the bridal party and I stayed in a hotel suite for some quality girl time, fun, games and laughs. Lots and lots of laughs!!! We finally went to bed in the wee hours of the night.
I awoke bright and early for my hair appointment. With my maid of honor as my chauffeur for the day, we headed out. Today was the day!! I was getting married!! Nothing could have prepared me for the range of emotions that day would hold. Anticipation. Excitement. Joy. Nervousness. I had dreamed of this day and waited 26 years for the man God had for me.
Man…don’t we look young? That picture was taken ten years ago today, when the Hubster and I stood in front of our family, friends and most importantly before God to proclaim our love for each other and our commitment to a life lived together. For better or worse. Richer or poorer. In sickness and in health.
I never imagined we would experience all of those things in our first 10 years of marriage. We have had our tough times between each other. We have lived on next to nothing and lost everything. Within 10 months time last year I was in the hospital a total of 45 days and the Hubster was on FMLA for a full 12 weeks. And now we’ve moved our family 630 miles from all they’ve ever known. Read about our journey here.
Even though the lessons have been tough, very tough at times, our marriage has become stronger. Each trial and tribulation, sickness and financial strains has strengthened our faith. While the road has not always been easy or even fun, I wouldn’t change a thing! It’s our story…written by God – and that makes it all worth it.
So tonight, the Hubster and I are doing something we’ve never done before. We are getting away!! Since we’ve had children, we have never been away for more than a meal and maybe a movie. And even that was rare. However, this is our 10 year Anniversary and I insisted that we take an overnight trip – just the two of us!!! Can I just tell you, I feel a little like a newlywed going away for my honeymoon? I’m excited and nervous all at the same time!!
Over the past 10 years, we’ve had many reasons (most of them legitimate) and often excuses for not taking time out in our lives to enrich our marriage. Not taking time for your marriage takes it toll. While some of our reasons and excuses have been valid and even understandable, we’ve simply not taken the time (and often effort) needed to nurture our marriage. So, this weekend begins a new chapter in our marriage. One where we are committed to enriching our marriage and investing in each other so our children will know without a doubt that our marriage was important and that we loved each other.
Many of you newlyweds, and even couples who’ve been married for years, may be wondering why should you invest in your marriage. There are many reasons and benefits to invest in your marriage. Here are five benefits of investing in your marriage.
5 Benefits of Investing in Your Marriage:
- You remember why you fell in love and fall in love all over again.
- You get a much needed break from the daily grind of life to focus on each other.
- Your children will know your marriage is important.
- You continue to connect (or re-connect) emotionally, physically and spiritually with your spouse.
- It’s FUN!!!
Investing in your marriage takes time and effort. But, trust me when I say…if you don’t take the time and put in the effort you will quickly find yourself lost in your own life. We have used all the excuses for not going out. No money. No babysitter. No time. Schedule too crazy. We’ve used it all. But they were just that…excuses.
We are not creative in the least. So, I find it helpful to have ideas of free and frugal date nights and ways around the babysitter issues, etc. I have gathered a few articles that will give you some great ideas!!