“I’m not in the mood for that!” my 5 year old said defiantly. I whipped my head around and asked her to repeat what she just said. I couldn’t believe my ears. She sounded fifteen, not five!
I asked her where she heard that statement and she enthusiastically said, from me. Me?! I cringed. I guess I do say that quite a bit. Apparently I say it so often she picked up on it and thought it was worth repeating. That got me thinking. What do they hear from me?
They repeat what they hear.
I decided to ask all my children, “What is something I say all the time?” And their answers surprised me.
“Stop pushing.” (so true)
“Be nice.” (I could put this on repeat)
“Mind me, please.” (again…repeat)
“I love you.”
There it is. That’s what I want my children to hear from me most often, “I love you!” Regardless of what they do during the day and how upset I get, the bottom line is…I love them. With every fiber of my being. They are my children. Every child should hear those words multiple times a day. They should hear it so often that they get tired of hearing it. I never want them to question my love for them.
And then I realized, that’s what Jesus wants us to know. He never wants us to question His love for us. Then I began to think about what I repeat. What I hear. Not from other people, but from my Heavenly Father. What is He repeating to me? Am I repeating what I hear from Him or outside sources? This led to a wonderful and humbling discussion with my children about repeating what we hear and deciphering whether or not it is from Jesus or our flesh.
I want my children to hear His voice before they hear mine.
I want my children to know His voice better than mine.
I want my children to follow His voice every day of their life.
This school year, I bought an actual Bible curriculum to use during our school time. In the past, we have tried some that we did for a while and enjoyed, but nothing really stuck. So far, we are enjoying Notgrass’ Draw and Learn: Proverbs study. The passages of scripture are not too big that the younger kids get lost or bored and each day highlights a specific verse or topic for them to interpret through a drawing of their own.
In just a few short weeks, we have gone through nearly three chapters in Proverbs and it is already helping my children hear God’s voice through His Word. We are having great discussions about the verses, their meanings and how they apply to our daily lives. It has opened up some great discussions about what they hear and how to know if its something they should repeat. Together we are growing in God’s Word and learning to hear His voice.
Its humbling to hear what my kids hear from me all the time. But, I guess that’s what parenting is all about though, right?
How are you growing through parenting?