Do you ever feel like you don’t enjoy your life?
That’s how I felt for about five years. Granted, my husband and I lost four babies to miscarriage during that time, so I know that was a large part of it. My body was in constant transition, and my hormones were all over the place. My grief was big and stole a lot of moments from me that could have been joyous ones.
But about a year ago, I decided I didn’t want to keep trudging through life anymore. I wanted to embrace it instead, even when that meant embracing the hard parts.
Here are a few ways I learned to do that.
5 Ways to Embrace Your Life (Even the Hard Parts):
Let yourself grieve.
We can’t work through our pain if we don’t address it.
I had to grieve my miscarriages before I could work through them. (I say “work through” because I don’t think you ever really “get over” something like that. Grief changes a person.)
If there are things in your life that are hard, don’t pretend they don’t exist. Grieve when you need to. Cry when you need to.
Take care of yourself by admitting there are some things in life that are really, really hard.
Look for the silver lining.
For years, as I was grieving each of my miscarriages, I missed moments with the one child I did have in front of me.
Instead of rejoicing in his life, I thought constantly about the lives I had lost.
I’m not suggesting you hide from your grief (see point 1). But I am suggesting that a part of working through your grief is learning to accept and enjoy the life you have.
Maurice Setter once said that “too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting gold.”
Don’t miss the silver lining in your life because you’re too focused on finding the gold that might not even exist.
My life changed when I started practicing gratitude.
After reading Ann Voskamp’s book, 1000 Gifts, I began writing down each day things for which I was thankful.
This practice enabled me to see things in my life that had been there all along in a whole new way.
I became thankful, not because my circumstances changed, but because I began practicing gratitude.
Figure out what makes you happy (and what makes you miserable).
Many of us spend way too much time doing things that deplete our spirits. If you get off Facebook feeling worse than you did before you logged on, maybe it would be better to not log on in the first place.
If certain things in your life make you miserable, maybe it’s time to reconsider whether or not you should participate in these activities.
Invest in others.
The happiest people in this life aren’t always those who have the most stuff or have the easiest lives.
Instead, the happiest people in this life are those who invest in others.
Jesus himself said it was more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20).
Learning to embrace your life isn’t always easy…especially when the hard things don’t change and the pain still hurts. But I’m learning (slowly) that it’s possible and definitely worth the effort.
What other things have helped you embrace your life?
I’ve put together a free, downloadable guide with 8 tips and strategies to help you embrace your life. It’s called Don’t Miss Your Life: 8 Ways to Stop Missing Life and Start Embracing it.
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