There are so many times that I look to Christ and how He cares so much for the Church that I become a bit overwhelmed. This became even more overwhelming when someone took time to explain to me that all the things Christ does for the Church, can also be applied to our own marriages. You see a Biblical marriage is suppose to be a mirror of the same principles that Jesus implemented. Though I could make this almost a book by comparing the principles and comparing them to our marriages let’s be a bit more specific. Christ grooms the Church and so it is safe to say our husband’s are suppose to be part of the grooming process that help mold us in our Christian walk.
If I am being completely honest this is a bit hard for me to understand at times. Even more so when my husband is able to point out things that I am lacking in spiritually. It kinda stings when he points those weaknesses out. I mean let’s face it who wants to hear about their flaws. Sometimes being groomed hurts.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. ~Ephesians 5: 22- 27 (ESV)
Our husbands are to be the spiritual head of our family. It is a requirement by God that they must fulfill, therefore sometimes they have to step on our toes – even though they know we will not like it. Mind you these corrections need to be made in love and with grace. Likewise they need to be received in the same fashion.
The way we handle these grooming moments can be just as important as the information that is being thrown at us. If we are being honest there are a lot of times my husband will express a concern and I am instantly offended. Once I am offended I am completely in defensive mode trying to express my reasoning. Yet, even in those moments I am still no more right then when the discussion first began.
I have found, however, when I take what he is saying and actually listen, I more times than not find that he just may have a point. It is in those moments that I push aside these feelings of defensiveness that I actually see that he in fact, wants the best for me and that is truly trying to help. After all we are a team and as a team it is up to us to help each other.
Sometimes, however, don’t see his point. It is in these moments that I really need to pray and seek out scripture to figure out that it is something I really do need to improve on. After all who would know better then our Heavenly Father. My husband knows me well, but God knows my heart better than anyone ever could. Many times in these soul searching moments, God will bust open the flood gates and show me exactly what it is my husband was trying to say.
Once the grooming moment has occurred, we have to be willing to express that we understand and that we need help with that matter. No one is perfect and in a Biblical marriage you are both working toward the same goal – to live a Biblically sound life that is honoring to God.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him!
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