If your children could communicate everything they were feeling, what do you think they would say? What do you think your children want you to know?
I don’t know about you, but I feel like a failure quite a bit with my children. It’s easy to grow discouraged when you say the same thing over and over and over again to your kids.
“Please stop pestering your brother….Your dirty laundry does not belong in the middle of the bathroom floor….Yes, you have to put your clothes away. I washed them and folded them. I think you can put them away.” (Can you tell laundry is a problem in our home?)
It feels like I say the same things day after day after day, and I think my words should have sunk in by now.
Have you ever been there?
Ever felt like a complete failure as a parent?
Ever wondered when your kids were going to start obeying the FIRST time you asked them to do something?
Though it’s easy to get discouraged as a parent, I think there are a few things our kids would tell us if they were able to put into words some of the feelings they held.
5 Things Your Child Wants You to Know
Dear Mom or Dad….
- You’re not a failure.
I know I don’t always listen to you or do what you ask the first (or second or third) time, but that doesn’t mean you’re not getting through. Eventually, I’ll get it. You are an amazing parent, and I’m so thankful God chose me to be your child and you to be my mom/dad.
- I’m a work in progress.
I’m not a mini-adult. That’s why sometimes I do things that seem completely ridiculous to you. I still have some growing up to do. Please be patient with me as I learn and grow.
- I want you.
More than toys. More than vacations. More than fancy electronics. I want you. I want to you to color with me, ride bikes with me, play board games with me and cuddle with me as we watch movies. I want you to put your distractions down and look me in the eyes when I’m talking to you. I want to know that I’m more important than your work or your phone or your computer or your TV show.
- I don’t expect you to be perfect.
I know you’re going to make mistakes, and I’m really okay with that. In fact, it’s because you make mistakes that I’m learning how to make things right. So don’t be so hard on yourself. Because of the mistakes you’re making, I’m learning how to ask for forgiveness, how to pray in repentance, and how to work through conflict.
- I really, really, really love you.
I know I might not always act like it. I know I might not always say it. But I do.
You are the person whom I know will always come to my aid. You are the person whom I know will be there for me, no matter what.
You are my hero, and I love you. I love you for the things you have done for me, for the sacrifices you have made, and for the person you are.
Thank you, Mom and Dad.
God is doing a mighty work in you and your children. Don’t give up and don’t give in. They are learning and growing in to the person God created them to be. Hang in there.
Chime in: Anything else you think a child would want his or her parents to know?