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Shortly after moving back to OK, I was able to contact a previous employer and secure a part-time position in their office. It quickly turned into a near full-time position as one of the ladies in the office got very sick. The little income I brought home was enough to cover food and minimal expenses. Soon after the Hubster found a position at a local restaurant. He worked as many shifts as possible, but it was just not enough to make ends meet – even without paying rent!! So, he searched for a more full-time position. Finally he found one in a well-known company. The pay was okay, but the potential for growth was amazing. He would have to start out on the overnight shift, but could work his way up if he just “put in his time.” So, for a few weeks he worked at both the restaurant and the overnight job. We soon realized that was not going to work. He was so exhausted when he came home that he could hardly function. Soon after he quit the restaurant and worked just the full-time position.
While living with my grandparents, the Hubster and I realized our current vehicle was not the best fit for our family and we really needed something bigger. So, he did his research and found the vehicle he believed we needed. The SUV we had was completely upside-down because of the market, not to mention the make was not a highly sought after vehicle. So, the resale value was far less than we paid for it. We realized we were getting no where fast and thought it would be better to find a vehicle with a higher resale value. So we choose a Honda Odyssey. I never thought I would be the mini-van mom, but I really liked it.
This was our life for several months until the Hubster found a part-time music ministry position in town. It paid just enough for us to finally move into our own place. We then decided that after living with my grandparents for 19+ months it was time. Only problem was we still had some debt that kept us from qualifying for a home loan. Through some rearranging and some help, we were able to finally secure a home loan – based on my job and his two jobs. We were so excited to finally have a home of our own. Space for all our belongings and nothing in storage!! Before moving in we ripped up the carpet and installed Pergo flooring and repainted every room in the house. We were set!! We closed on November 29th, 2007. We moved in just in time to enjoy Christmas in our own home. It was wonderful!!!
Life was seemingly going our way. Until…January 2 when I returned to work only to find out I they were letting me go. I was crushed and devastated!!! I had known this family for many years and I received an email telling me they were letting me go! I was hurt. All I could do was sit and cry. We had just bought a new house, counting on my (very little) income, but counting on it nonetheless. It took several days for me to calm down and realize that maybe this was a blessing in disguise. What blessing…I didn’t know just yet.
This job loss churned something in the Hubster and I. He began reading his Bible daily and other works by godly men who had seemingly suffered through life. My faith was renewed and restored as I began to see God working in and through my life. We began to completely trust God with our lives. EVERYTHING we gave to Him!! Or so we thought.
It was during this time, that I began watching the show 18 Kids and Counting on Sunday evenings. The Hubster was working and I was up by myself at night. I became fascinated with their family and really admired them for their beliefs. It really struck a chord with me, when they talked about why they had so many kids. It was all in the Lord’s hands. That really resonated with me and I began doing some more research about their family and reading my Bible to verify the scriptures they quoted on their site. They were exactly right!! Why was it that we were letting God take control of our finances and everything to do with the house and our family – except our family size?! We still only had one child and I so desperately wanted more. Now to be fair, I have always wanted a large family. You can ask my Mom. From the time I was little I talked about having lots of kids and being a teacher. But, the Hubster was not quite so on board with the family size just yet. I gave him the resources I had found and the scriptures to read. It wasn’t long before he came back to me and said, “You’re right. Why aren’t we leaving it up to God?” Thus began our change in philosophy and how we viewed our family. It was an exciting time in our marriage. We felt a burden and weight lifted from us, like never before.
One short month later, I found out I was pregnant with #2 – Mister Mouse. We were overjoyed to share the news with our family and friends. In fact, it was a fun time to be pregnant in our family. My other three sisters-in-law were also pregnant!! All 4 of us had boys born within 6 months of each other.
But, our bliss was short-lived. In April, shortly after we found we were pregnant, the church had budget cuts and decided to let the Hubster go. We were now down to one job. The one that really didn’t pay enough for us to keep the house we had just bought. We prayed and prayed, seeking God’s guidance and felt at peace staying in the house – at least for now. We quickly got behind on our credit-card bills and soon, stress creeped back into our lives.
The Hubster searched and searched for another part-time job in town.
We prayed some more for God’s deliverance from this trial.
I was trying my best to hold everything together, but with the weight of a new baby coming into our family and the bills piling up, it was difficult to say the least.
Shortly after Mister Mouse was born, another church contacted the Hubster about a part-time music ministry position. After meeting with them and the elders, he accepted the position. It wasn’t in town, so we drove about 45 minutes (one-way) each Sunday to church. The people were nice and receptive to our family. It was a great fit for us at the time.
While at the church, we found out baby #3 was on the way!! That’s right…just 7 short months after Mister Mouse was born, I was pregnant with baby #3. However, we were met with more than a little opposition during this pregnancy. That was okay though, because we were fine with the Lord being in charge and not worrying about what anyone else thought. Six short months after beginning this new job, the church also did budget cuts and the Hubster’s position was eliminated. Suddenly we found ourselves back in the same position.
One job that didn’t pay enough.
The Lord was in control and we were along for the ride.
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