Missed the first post? Read Part 1 of this series here.
There are haters out there. No matter what trials the Lord is leading you through, there are haters. It has taken me a long time (and I mean a really long time) to move past them and ignore their hurtful comments. That’s why it’s taken me so long to write these posts. But, the Lord has placed it on my heart so heavily that there must be someone out there who needs to read this. So, here goes.
When the Hubster and I got married nearly 10 years ago, I had already acquired some debt. I am 5 years older than him and I had lived on my own for several years before going away to college. Needless to say…I didn’t handle my “freedom” very responsibly. So, we had debt from the get-go. And it only got worse! In December before we got married (or even together, see this post) I bought a new car on my Dad’s recommendation. It was one of those, “No Payments, No Interest for 12 months” kinda deal. FYI…those are BAD. VERY, VERY BAD!!!! But, that’s another post for another day. Anyway after we got married, the Hubster and I decided we needed a different vehicle – a bigger vehicle, in anticipation for our future children. So, we traded in my little car for a new SUV. This only made things worse. Now our car payments were over $500/month because we were upside-down from the start.
I had one year left of college and the Hubster had two years left when we got married. So, we did what most college kids do and took out student loans to cover our schooling and expenses, so that our menial jobs would cover the rent, car payments and credit card debt we already had. As you can imagine…our first year was not the marital bliss the movies and romance novels make it out to be. It was full of stress (from school and debt), lack of sleep from the late night studying and lots of worrying. This was not at all how I had dreamed of married life.
In June, before our two year anniversary, we welcomed our first child into our family. I had been working part time in the cafeteria at the college while the Hubster finished his 5-year degree. But, now with the birth of our child, we decided I should stay home full-time. This only added more strain to our money issues, but I was positive the Lord wanted me home, so I decided to trust Him. We did better at “living within our means,” but we still indulged more than we should have. We were so focused on living in the moment and for ourselves that we lost sight of what God wanted from us.
We still had our faith and were very involved in our church, but we were living worldly lives and merely functioning as Christians. Our faith was not living and active in our lives. It was stagnate. Oh sure, we believed Jesus Christ to be the Son of God, but we lacked belief in the power of the Holy Spirit. We trusted He would work things out for good, but we just thought we had to help Him!!! It took many more failures, trials and years before we finally realized God had it all under control!
Nine months after Mister Bull was born, the Lord quickly shut the door on the Hubster’s job at the college. In a matter of weeks, the Hubster lost his job at the college (the one we thought was a perfect fit for him and our family). There were no jobs in town that would pay enough to cover our rent, even with the second job he already had. So we quickly packed up our small apartment and our lives and moved back to our families in Oklahoma. Since we neither one had jobs, we moved in with my grandparents until we could get things settled.
Getting settled took longer than expected. MUCH longer than expected.
Read Part 3 here