Marriage divorce rates are at an all-time high. One of the many reasons is that couples have forgotten they are not only promising to love another individual for the rest of their lives, but in order to have a successful marriage – they have to be a team player.
Self-serving attitudes are not only present in the world, but the same attitude has made its way into many marriages. Children are no longer seeing parents who work together to better each other. Instead, they see two individuals who live together and just strive to make their own personal goals come true, which means they are learning this behavior is acceptable in marriage.
So how can we change this perception if we are at a loss as to how we can promote a team player attitude in our marriages? Also are there actually advantages that can come from changing to this team player attitude?
Ways to be a Team Player in Your Marriage
- Start the day by thinking of ways you can encourage your spouse to be the best person they can be. This doesn’t mean nagging them to change. But it does mean you have to make the effort to praise and encourage your spouse to reach their own goals and dreams. Never underestimate the power a nice word or gesture can have on your marriage and your spouse.
- Take time to dream together. You can learn a lot about a person by dreaming together. You begin to learn what makes them tick. What excites them. Where their passion lies. Marriages need to take a little more time to daydream together to help you both discover the path you want to take. How are you supposed to reach your goals together if you don’t know what the goals are?
- Allow God in and push the distractions out. God needs to be at the center of our marriages and not just an afterthought. The world says we need to look out for ourselves because no one else will. However, the Bible tells us that when you entered into the marriage covenant, you became one. Hold on to God’s truths. You are one with your spouse, therefore you have to not only help each other grow, but grow together.
- Realize you both serve an important purpose in your marriage. You both have special abilities, which are most likely different. Those differences can make you unstoppable forces, but only if you realize the importance of those abilities and put on that team player mentality. In fact, dare I say, with Jesus at the center and a team player mentality – you could have the ultimate marriage!
Advantages to a Team Player Marriage
Learning to be a team player in your marriage seems like a lot of hard work, because it is. Yet, at the end of the day, it is well worth the effort that it takes and then some. Here are some advantages I’ve found when being a team player in my own marriage.
- You will be more in tune with your spouse. The two of you together will turn into a fine-tuned marriage couple. Both of you will flourish because you will feel loved, secure and validated in your relationship. You will also begin to know ahead of time or very quickly what your spouse needs, since you have been paying attention and in constant communication.
- Positive changes will begin to take place. Instead of being two people who just live together you will turn into a loving couple who longs to help the other achieve all that they desire because you are finally beginning to realize that when one of you succeeds, you both succeed. It is a partnership, much like a business. You are part of a whole, so operating like a team will benefit everyone.
- Your children will learn what a real Christ Centered marriage looks like! Your children will begin to truly see marriage how God intended. It is lay the groundwork for what they themselves will want in a marriage.
I would love to know what extra tips or ideas that you have on becoming more an of “Team Player” in a marriage.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
Bridget
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God has to be in the center of each marriage – and each person
You are so right. Without God in the center of all our efforts nothing will succeed!
This is a great list! I would add – Your spouse is not meant to fill all of your needs and desires and Your spouse is not meant to heal your past relationship wounds.
YES!!! We gave to own our own happiness. Our husbands are there to help us in life’s journey not be our heal all. That is up to God.
So much truth right here
Thank you and thank you for stopping by!
I remember how often my husband and I used to dream together, and this caused our marriage to be cohesive. When kids come and work is hard and surgeries come up and life becomes overwhelming, it’s interesting to wonder where all the dreams went. Great reminder to continue dreaming!
Yes! Dreaming never needs to stop-. It keeps us trying to reach new goals.
Never stop dreaming. It gives us goals to reach together.
My husband and I take time each night to talk about our dreams and ambitions. We connect on such a deeper level when we ponder on the future together. Your list was awesome!
Thank is so awesome! As married couples we need that. Thank you for stopping by!!
I need to dream with my husband more! Sadly, we’ve gotten complacent and have let our hectic schedules draw us away from letting our imaginations run wild. I think it’s so important to not stop dreaming together because even God desires us to!
Friend it happens to us all! Sky is the limit.
Yes, carving out time to be together as a team is so important. Our selfishness can so easily take over if we are not careful. Asking your spouse how you can help him/her that day can be another way to show love and team work too!
You are so right. We get so busy with what “I” have to get done that we forget sometimes that we are a team.
There are so many opportunities to divide a couple, it definitely takes work to be a team. We learn that lesson over and over again and try to make our marriage a priority and being a team is a big part of that.
You are right it does take a lot of work but the rewards of that work are greater than anything that we could achieve trying to do life alone.
Wow .. beautifully said … one of the things that my husband and my constantly do is study the Bible together and share what God has spoken to us every day, that builds us and encourages us. Revives our love and passion for God and each other.
I love that! Yes, when a couple is willing to dig into God’s Word together and grow spiritually as a team it creates a bond like none other.