When my husband and I were engaged everyone was full of congratulations and of course, because we were so young everyone offered the question “are you sure about this?” However, no one ever really told us how our marriage could actually be. We were somewhat shocked to find that as our family grew and our responsibilities grew, that somehow we had allowed our marriage to slowly start suffering.
Our schedules were so full that the only time we had for each other were quick pecks on the cheeks and quick good nights. We started to disconnect from each other. We started to focus on so many other things that we had forgotten we also needed to focus on each other. We took for granted the “until death do you part” that those words didn’t mean you shouldn’t work on making that life long commitment enjoyable.
It had finally gotten to the point in our marriage that we actually no longer desired to have a conversation with each other. We were so disconnected that at one point we didn’t even talk to each other for a week. Sadly, we were almost oblivious to the fact that we actually had allowed that to happen. This was a wake up call for us. It was actually at this point that we decided that we needed to sit down and start clearing out some things and start making time for our marriage.
Together we listed all thing things we were involved in both in and outside the home. We discovered that a lot of the things we had listed were things that did not contribute to our marriage or those in our home at all. We started to weed out things that did not pertain to growing us spiritually together and did not benefit our children. At the top of that list we put our marriage.
6 Ways to Make Your Marriage a Priority:
- Pray for your marriage both together and separately.
- Commit to a weekly date night. These can be at home or out on the town.
- Make sure to connect with your spouse daily.
- Touch each other often. Never underestimate a hug or holding of hands.
- Pray specifically for your spouse daily.
- Clear your schedule from “stuff” so that you can take time to simply “be” together.
At the end of the day the truth of the matter is marriage is a lot of work. However, couples who choose to put their marriage first create happy and health homes.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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