Marriage truly amazes me sometimes. I am more amazed that as time goes on my spouse still just does not understand what makes me tick. I think this can be explained by the fact that both men and women process things differently. The problem is that sometimes we have to remind ourselves to apply grace and forgiveness in our marriages even when they don’t seek it or when they are completely unaware they even need to.
I join a rare group of women who will stew over a situation I will fester on it, analyze it and I will beat it on the ground with a stick. It makes no sense to my husband. Truth be told it doesn’t even make sense to me half the time. Yet, the phrase “I’m sorry” from my husband could end the whole over thinking process. Sadly, this doesn’t always happen, and this is where I have a choice. I can continue to stew over the situation that can, in fact, lead to resentment taking up root in my heart, or I can choose to forgive and move on.
Early on in my marriage, I learned that I have to provide grace and forgiveness in my marriage. I also learned that I had to do this long before my husband ever sought it. Without it, our marriage would not be one that would glorify God and it would not be one that would grow into a union that could be simply beautiful. I am not saying that this was an easy realization in which to come to terms. If I were completely honest, I would have to admit that there were many tears and frustrated moments trying to swallow this concept.
In all aspects of our lives, we have to be willing to apply grace.
Grace that things will not always be the way that we want them to be.
Grace that our husbands will not always be accurate when it comes to our reactions to certain things.
Grace has to be applied in our marriage, and it must be applied often.
We must be willing to humble ourselves when it comes to forgiving our spouse.
We must be willing to put away our own human nature and be more Christ like.
We must be willing to apply grace and practice forgiveness just like we would want to receive.
We must be willing to shed our pride and instead focus on our Christ like love that we want to have with our spouse.
Applying grace and forgiveness in our marriage isn’t always easy. However, applying grace allows healing and prevents us from allowing seeds of resentment to take root in our hearts.
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