I first heard the phrase “Stay-At-Home Daughter” when I was seventeen, I think. I had actually embraced the ideology earlier but was happy to have a descriptive word for my chosen lifestyle.
I graduated from high school a bit early, having been homeschooled all the way through but unlike most these days, I wasn’t really feeling a desire to go to college. Now I don’t want you to get the impression that I’m against college. It can be a very good thing for some but for me it just wasn’t something I felt the Lord wanted me to spend time pursuing, at least not so far.
When I was little and dreamed about what I would be growing up I had the usual random dreams of any child. Maybe I would be an artist, an author, a scientist, a hair dresser or missionary but always I knew I wanted to be a wife and mother. A lot of my childhood dreams fizzled out or took on new forms but my longing to be a wife and mother has never changed.
When I finished high school I wasn’t interested in a career I just wanted a family and so I was encouraged to use this time to study Scripture, homemaking, being a good wife and a loving mother.
For me, being a stay-at-home daughter has meant honing my homemaking skills, serving in the church and other miniteries while still choosing to remain under the protection of my parents. There is a lot that I have been learning over the last couple of years and I have been excited to be able to share many of these things on my blog Stay-At-Home Daughter and in my two books “Keeping House… While Keeping Sane” and “Single Girl- the single woman’s guide to life, liberty and the pursuit of godliness”.
It is amazing the opportunities and ministries the Lord will lay in front of you if you choose to trust Him and follow His plans for your life, even when His plans for you aren’t very popular.
To young ladies: Seek the Lord before jumping into the mainstream way of life. Ask yourself, ask the Lord what His desires are for you. Maybe the answer is college, maybe not but don’t be afraid to be different don’t be afraid to question. Whatever the Lord calls you to do He will equip you for and provide the grace to carry you through even on the hard days. Truly, following the Lord’s leading is a most rewarding experience and definitely worth it.
To mothers: I would urge you to encourage your daughters to follow the Lord’s leading in their life. Encourage them to see the beauty and importance of being a wife and mother and give them opportunities to prepare for these special roles. Raise your sons to see the value of a woman with the desire to serve the Lord and her family. I’m thankful that my parents did these things for our family.
Being a stay-at-home daughter isn’t the right path for everyone but I can attest that it is a wonderful, enjoyable option worth your consideration!
If you have any questions about my choice to become a stay-at-home daughter I have a few additional articles on my blog. You can also submit a question here.
What Does a Stay-At-Home Daughter Do?
Are You Making Stay-At-Home Daughterhood Attractive To Your Girls?
The “What-Ifs” of Not Going to College
20 Job Ideas For Stay-At-Home Daughters
When Stay-At-Home Daughters Disagree With Parents
How To Handle Negative Comments About Being a Stay-At-Home Daughter
Ashley Schnarr is a young, single girl living in the southern part of the US. She is a homeschool graduate and stay-at-home daughter who lives and serves at home with her family.
She decided to forgo college at least at this time in order to pursue homemaking skills, ministeries and various vocations. You can read about her decision not to be to college here.
Ashley is actively involved in her local church and ministers regularly to the congregation in song. She also likes using her administrative gifts to organize ministries such as the annual Knit Together in Love: Scarf Project, which provides handmade scarves to needy children around the world.
She wrote and published her first paperback book, “Keeping House…. While Keeping Sane” at the age of seventeen. Recently she came out with a new book “Single Girl… the single woman’s guide to life, liberty and the pursuit of godliness”.
Ashley has a passion for encouraging young women to embrace biblical femininity and to live as beautiful women of God through His Glorious Gospel.