It’s easy to keep that loving feeling when things in our marriages are going the way that we think they should. Sometimes, we forget that we, in fact, have to put work into our marriages in that particular season. After all, if it isn’t broken why in the world would we try to fix it. However, as anyone will tell you every marriage has a rocky season. This typically sneak up on us when we least expect it.
I could tell you the same marriage advice that everyone gives, which is always work on your marriage, even in the great moments. Though it is very truthful and helpful advice, it is the advice that we particularly need in those moments when we are at our wits end and in a season where we are truly wondering why it is we are even trying to hold on.
So what do we need to do in those rocky seasons?
- Pray for God to step in: Now I know this is something you already know. What you may not know it is that true change in a marriage happens when we not only ask for God to change our spouse but to actually change us. Changes within ourselves promote changes among those around us.
- Change your focus: In rocky seasons, we tend to focus on what is going wrong. Oh, what a difference can be made in our own attitudes when we focus on what is going right. Take time to praise those little moments even if it is something small.
- Take time to remember simpler seasons: We can’t live in the past but we can revisit memories that caused us great joy. Take time to ponder that first date and how it felt, that moment you confessed your love to your families and those little gestures that made you smile. It amazes me how thinking of those moments and looking at pictures can cause me to remember what it is I am fighting for.
- Remind yourself that this season will also pass: Sometimes those rocky seasons seem as though they will never end. However, every season has an end and every season has a reason!
Rocky seasons in our marriages are never easy. In fact, they can cause strains in our marriage that we never thought could be possible. However, we can make it through these seasons and come up stronger and better.
This post is part of the Marriage & Motherhood Mondays series. To see others in this series, simply click the image below.
Latest posts by Bridget Childress (see all)
- Strengthening Your Marriage in the New Year - January 27, 2020
- 4 Ways to Make Learning Fun through Games - August 9, 2019
- An Experiment to Remember a Christmas Science Advent Calendar - August 2, 2019