Marriage is a full-time commitment. It is two people working together, building a life together and working toward a marital goal fulfilling God’s purpose for marriage. Even though this requires open communication and being willing to serve each other – it is just as important that you take time to simply be alone.
As a woman, we need time alone so that we can absorb all the things that have been going on in our minds and lives. It is also important to take time alone so that we can recenter ourselves and to seek God’s direction in our own personal walks. We need time without distraction to simply pray and evaluate.
I am reminded of how Jesus would remove himself often to pray alone. Yes, even Jesus needed time away from all the noise, the questions and the distractions. He needed time to speak with God and to refill himself.
But he would withdraw to desolate places and pray. Luke 5:16 (ESV)
And after he had dismissed the crowds, he went up on the mountain by himself to pray. When evening came, he was there alone, Matthew 14:23 (ESV)
Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed. Mark 1:35 (ESV)
So while taking time to actually connect with our husband is important it is also important that we take time every once in a while to be alone with God to seek direction. Not only does this time help us return more focused and centered on serving our family and marriage, it also gives us a chance to connect with God without distractions.
If you are like me then finding this time alone can be somewhat of a challenge. In fact, it takes a little bit of creativity at times. Here are a few things that work for me.
- Waking up early to get in some personal devotional time.
- Take time to go for a walk alone.
- Attend a women’s Bible study.
- Stay up a little later to soak in the quiet and pray.
- If finances allow schedule a short trip.
During these alone moments it is important that we use them for their intended purposes. We need make sure that we evaluate everything that we have going on in our lives. We need to pray for guidance on the things that God is leading us to do and we need to seek God’s guidance for the things that He wants us to change within ourselves. We also need to take this time alone to pray for our marriage, to pray for our children and to pray for our family’s mission.
Now you may be wondering how in the world time away from your husband can actually strengthen your marriage. It is simple really. In order to give our family and our marriage our best we must remain spiritually filled. This means that is it critical that we allow ourselves time to do just that. As women we are so easily distracted with things that need to be done around us that we actually must force ourselves to actively seek God alone.Aligning ourselves with God and His Word will directly affect our marriage and our family as a whole. After all, as wives I truly believe we set the tone in our home.
I urge you to sit down today and think of ways that you can take time alone. Discuss this plan with your husband and even encourage him to do the same. You will be surprised at the difference it can make in both your personal walk with Christ and your walk together.
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him,
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