Raising children close together in age can be hard work. There always seems to be a mini fire to be put out between siblings, double the diapers, double the accidents and double the stress. When your children are younger you actually have days when you are almost certain that you haven’t sat down all day long.
The truth is raising children who are close in age can be beyond hard. It’s like running around on a hamster wheel juggling balls of fire. However, I have a few tips to help you on your journey that myself (and my readers) have come up with along the way.
6 Secrets for Raising Children Close in Age:
- Dig into God’s Word daily: Seriously this is super important and yes I know your schedules are busting at the seams but you can not afford to skip this tip. In digging into God’s Word daily you are ministering to your heart. Your heart needs to be in the right place if you are ever going to minister to a child’s heart.. (This one goes for one child or twenty children)
- Remember that just because they are so close in age they have to have their own space: As moms, we long to sneak away to simply the bathroom for 5 mins. They also need the same thing. Set up a space where they can go to simply be alone for a few minutes. Believe it or not, our children get just as overwhelmed as we do, if not more!
- Group activities are great but each child needs one on one time with just you: When you have multiple littles it is easy to simply try to do things together all at one time. This works great for meals, family devotional time and field trips. These things do not replace the fact that each child needs you for a little while to join them in exploring their activities. Yes, as a mom of 4 I know it is hard to do this but I also know that it is a must. Have a date night where one child stays up 30 mins later to just do something with you, take only one child to run errands when you can or simply pull one child off to the side throughout the day. This helps boost their self-esteem and reminds them that they are super important as an individual.
- Avoid comparing one child to another both inside your head and out loud: The comparison game is a dangerous game. I am a mother of twins. When I began this parenting of twins journey I worried myself way too much when one did something before the other or achieve something and the other couldn’t. The same can be said for all my children. If a child feels they are living in a shadow they will never bloom into who God wants them to be.
- Remember though you are playing “bouncer” now, it will not always be this way: Yes, we need to remind them to be kind to each other and validate each other’s feelings. Honestly, you will be repeating this over and over again until…honestly, I have no clue but one day they will get along and they will truly learn to complete each other.
- In the midst of the craziness take the time to soak in the view: Step away from the giant pile of laundry and look. Look at your children creating havoc together. One day all this will be gone. Memories are being made, a bond is being formed and it is all happening under your roof.
Raising children who are close in age is hard. Heck! Raising children is hard! There are days you are going to feel like you are failing and other days you are going to be certain you are in over your head. But I promise it is all going to be okay!
Until Next Time Just Keep Soaring 4 Him!
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