What God is Teaching me…through Parenting

Share on facebook
Share on twitter
Share on pinterest
Share on email
In All You Do uses affiliate links within its posts. You may read more on our disclosure policy.

god taught me through parenting

clip art courtesy of My Cute Graphics

I love my life. Let me just make that perfectly clear from the start. But just because I love my life, does not mean I am blissfully happy every moment of the day or that I don’t have struggles and frustrations. You see…I have always dreamed of being a wife and mother. I was the stereotypical little girl that constantly played house and school. I took care of my dolls as if they were my children. I had visions of a perfect marriage where I would stay home to care for the house, keeping it spotless (I like a clean house) and having a four-course dinner ready and served on the table promptly at 5pm when my adoring husband would come through the door, give me a great BIG kiss and hug on his children before sitting down to dinner. My hair would be clean and neatly placed upon my head while I politely called the children to the table.

Then we had our first child!!! WOW…was that a rude awakening or what?! Trying to figure out how to breastfeed a newborn, get as much sleep as possible and keep myself in somewhat of an attractive state was not as easy as I thought! I was lucky to shower twice a week!! And in the beginning…I didn’t care!! I was so sleep deprived that I didn’t care most weeks if I got out of my pajamas! Soon I became quite good as nursing the babe while eating a burger and fries. I felt like I should have won an Olympic gold for the first combo sport!!

Just as we finally had a groove and rhythm with one kid, the Lord saw fit to give us another. I just knew this time would be different. I would have it all together, because…hey! I had done this before! HA!!! If laughter really is the best medicine, then anyone who came to help me or sit with me must have burned some mega calories!! Life just got crazier and more hectic with baby #2. And only 14.5 short months later came baby #3, followed quickly by baby #4. Since we got married my last year of college and the Hubster had 2 years left, our lives have never been dull or slow. At first we had school obligations and our jobs on campus. Then, came baby and a move to another state. Followed by new job, new house, another baby and so on.

It wasn’t until recently that I began to reflect on our journey as parents over the past 8 years. Did I say EIGHT?! WOW!!! It doesn’t hardly seem possible that our first “little” guy was born over 8 years ago. It became quite clear as I reflected that through our trials and triumphs, failures and festivity…God has been faithful and He has taught me.

6 Things God has Taught Me Through Parenting

  1. I am not flexible. I really thought I was fairly flexible until I had kids. We were pretty laid back parents (almost too laid back) with our first child. But I still had a schedule. I liked things done a certain way and I wasn’t about to let someone fold the towels different. So I continually put a lot of pressure on myself because I cannot handle things done any other way. This is why I have such a difficult time with a chore chart!! But, we’re working on it!
  2. I am not perfect. Contrary to popular opinion…I am not perfect! I thought I had things all figured out and parenting was going to be so much fun! But, the truth is…I find new faults in myself every single day. If you want to know your faults…have children!! Seriously. I thought I found all my faults when I got married…not even close!! I am no where near perfect and I think my children bring up a new fault via my parenting skills every week – if not every day!!
  3. I am impatient. I have always honestly thought I was a fairly patient person. At least when it came to children. I enjoyed teaching the preschoolers at church through high school. It wasn’t until I had my own children that I found out how impatient I really was. I seem to constantly be telling the kids to hurry up or move faster at whatever they are doing. When they say, “don’t pray for patience” they should warn you that the answer to that prayer often comes in the form of a free-spirited, go-with-the-flow, lives in their own world child (or four).
  4. I am inconsistent. I always thought of myself as a consistent person. It wasn’t until I had kids that I truly found out how inconsistent I can be!! I am constantly revoking groundings because of things we have going on. Or the fact that I find so many amazing ideas for making homeschool fun and exciting for the kids and never seem to get around to actually doing them. Although I have a schedule {mostly in my head} of how the “school day” should go…it never quite goes according to plan. I am not always good at following through with disciplinary actions either. Sometimes I just don’t take the effort to get up and chase them. And other times I’m in the middle of washing dishes or changing a dirty diaper, so it’s not convenient to immediately stop and leave a baby on the changing table to chase another child down. I’m not consistent, but I’m working on it!!
  5. I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing! It’s the absolute truth!!! People think parents with more than two children must have it all figured out. And those who homeschool…well, they must really have it all together. NOT TRUE!!! If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the 8 years I’ve been a parent – it’s that I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing!!! Parenting is a new adventure every day…sometimes every hour! I wish I could honestly tell you that with each kid you get smarter. But the truth is, I think you get dumber!! What works one day might not work two weeks down the road. Parenting is constantly evolving with your children as they grow and change. You better be ready to go with them!
  6. I can’t do this alone!! If there’s two things I’ve learned, it’s that I cannot do this alone!! I have tried following my own schedules and making my own rules, rather than teaching my children who the One TRUE King is and how to follow His ways. I have found things to do instead of spending time with Him and nurturing my relationship so that I can nurture my children in the same love and grace. God is using my children to show me how much I truly need Him, not just in my life, but to be my entire life – my EVERYTHING.

I am honored and blessed to be Mommi of these four precious children. But I know I don’t have it all together and I’m tired of pretending that I do. I want to be open and honest that I am a failure – daily. I lose my temper, I raise my voice and my house looks like an Oklahoma tornado swept through it most days.  But, I am learning to revel in the JOY that is motherhood. It’s not perfect and it’s certainly not neat, but it is an honor to be entrusted by God to raise these children He has blessed me with all for the glory of His name. And so I will press on. I will continue to submit my faults to Christ daily and allow the Holy Spirit to work in my life – changing me, molding me, refining me. It will not be easy. I will fail often. Then I will ask for forgiveness and grace so I can press on.

Has the Lord been teaching you through parenting (or anything else)? I would love to hear about it!! Share in the comments what the Lord is doing in your life!

What God's Teaching Me Wednesdays buttonIs God teaching you through everyday life? I am looking for Guest Posts in this series. If you are interested in sharing what God is teaching you, please email me: mommi (at) inallyoudo (dot) net and use What God is Teaching Me in the subject line. I think it is so important to share our not only our triumphs, but also our struggles as mothers and Christians so as to edify, encourage and lift up each other in prayer. Blessings ~ Annette 

Linking up: Raising Arrows, The Better Mom, Time-Warp Wife, Growing Home, Far Above Rubies, Raising Homemakers, Deep Roots At Home, A Wise Woman Builds Her Home, Raising Mighty Arrows, Hearts for Home Blog Hop, Whole Hearted HomeGraced

The following two tabs change content below.
Annette has been married to her husband and best friend since 2003. Together they are raising their six children to follow the Lord’s will, no matter what. Annette longs for the day when she will meet all her angel babies who have entered heaven before her. She enjoys creating fun and engaging printables, unit studies and curriculum for homeschool families. You can follow her crazy life at In All You Do where she blogs about marriage, parenting, and homeschooling all while maintaining her sanity. She is also the owner of Thrifty Homeschoolers, where she shares free printables and resources from around the web as well as deals on curriculum and homeschooling resources. You can also keep up with her via Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest.

Latest posts by Annette Breedlove (see all)

Share on facebook
Share on twitter
Share on pinterest
Share on email

You may also like…

Leave a Reply

Close Menu