Should you keep SECRETS in your Marriage?

Have you ever wondered what it was like for those spouses that have to live with secrets in their marriages every day of their life? Whether you’re the spouse of a pastor, military personnel, counselor or other occupation that requires secrecy – I’m here to tell you…it’s hard!! I never dreamed how much it would change our marriage when he had to keep secrets from me.

“He walks in the door. Brow furled from a long day at work. The weight of the world on his shoulders. His face carrying the agony and pain of a secret. A secret he cannot tell me. A burden he must bear – alone.

Have you ever kept a secret from your spouse? I’m not talking a birthday or anniversary surprise secret, I mean a secret you were asked to keep?

But…

Secrets can put a wedge between you and your spouse.

Secrets can damage the trust system in your marriage.

It is true that secrets can drive a wedge and erect walls in a marriage, which is precisely why it’s been difficult for me since we began our first full-time ministry. So, what do you do when it’s your husband’s “job” to keep secrets? Lots of prayer and trust. My husband is a minister and is included in private counseling sessions or conversations that I’m not privy to. In fact most of the time, I know very little of what happens at the church – unless it’s announced in the bulletin or from the pulpit.”

Today I’m sharing my heart on Keeping Secrets in a Marriage is Hard, over in the 31 Days to a Better Marriage series at Managing Your Blessings. Head over to read the full article.