Have you ever wondered what it was like for those spouses that have to live with secrets in their marriages every day of their life? Whether you’re the spouse of a pastor, military personnel, counselor or other occupation that requires secrecy – I’m here to tell you…it’s hard!! I never dreamed how much it would change our marriage when he had to keep secrets from me.
“He walks in the door. Brow furled from a long day at work. The weight of the world on his shoulders. His face carrying the agony and pain of a secret. A secret he cannot tell me. A burden he must bear – alone.
Have you ever kept a secret from your spouse? I’m not talking a birthday or anniversary surprise secret, I mean a secret you were asked to keep?
Secrets can put a wedge between you and your spouse.
Secrets can damage the trust system in your marriage.
It is true that secrets can drive a wedge and erect walls in a marriage, which is precisely why it’s been difficult for me since we began our first full-time ministry. So, what do you do when it’s your husband’s “job” to keep secrets? Lots of prayer and trust. My husband is a minister and is included in private counseling sessions or conversations that I’m not privy to. In fact most of the time, I know very little of what happens at the church – unless it’s announced in the bulletin or from the pulpit.”