I don’t read the Bible near as much as I should. I probably don’t pray as much as I should. I should definitely lean on Christ more.
I fail so much, and there are times when I don’t know how to be the mom that my children need me to be.
I know what it’s like to be confused and stressed and tired. I know what it’s like to have to keep trudging along.
But mothering doesn’t stop, even when you’re at your wit’s end.
I’ve mentioned before, one of my failures is yelling. I am working hard to change this, but my natural reaction when I get stressed is just to start yelling.
I know it isn’t healthy for me or my children, and truth be told…my voice is starting to show the effects.
Sound familiar, mama? Have you been there? When you just feel like you can’t go on but being a mama just doesn’t stop.
Surely there are times in your day or week when you’ve lost it. When the kids have literally gotten on your last nerve and you have nothing left.
All you want to do is scream, pull out your hair, and run for the hills. You’re at your wit’s end. If we’re all being honest here, you’re probably read to extend your arms for that virtual hug because you’ve been there too.
Being patient has never been a strong suit of mine, especially with my own children. I usually do pretty well with other children, but my own – they know how and what buttons to push. And they push them over and over and over.
So how do you do it? How do you continue in mothering when you’re at your wit’s end? What do you do when these little blessings are gnawing at you and eating away at your patience day after day?
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Mothering When You’re at Your Wit’s End
Kneel in prayer
Yes, I say this all the time. But when I am at my wit’s end, prayer has to be my first defense. If I am not going to the One who gives patience, how do I expect to get it?
Spending time in prayer each day, and throughout the day as stress tries to creep back in, helps refocus me on Him, rather than the issues at hand.
After spending time in prayer, the problems usually seem much smaller than I originally thought and now, suddenly, much more manageable.
I find that spending one-on-one time with each of my children is so important. It helps me not only understand each of them separately, and without distractions, but also get to know their individual personalities.
Sometimes, knowing what makes each of my children tick changes how I react to them and the situations in which they are involved.
When you feel like you may be losing patience with your kids, take the time to slow down. Take a day off here and there, and not just on Saturdays when your husband may be home. Take a day off from the normal, daily grind of homeschooling, chores, and being at home.
Take a day-trip to a close destination. Spend the day at the park with your children and pack a picnic lunch. Do something that reminds you of the blessing of motherhood and not just the daily trials.
Ask for Help
Sometimes, especially as mothers, we find ourselves trying to do it all. Maybe you feel like you just don’t have enough time in the day, maybe the children could be a little more independent, maybe you need to hire some assistance- don’t fear to admit that you can’t do it all.
The truth of the matter is that we can’t, and it’s okay to say that when you feel overloaded.
Consult With Someone Else
If you feel like you’re struggling to hold it together in your parenting journey, maybe it’s time to ask an outside source. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with your spouse, or a close friend could help!
Not only does it take a load off of our shoulders by talking about it, but it also opens the door for someone to give you a little advice when they are able to see the whole problem, and they’re not the one facing it.
Find the Root of the Problem
If we don’t address the root, the situation will rear it’s ugly head again. So we have to figure out WHY we feel like the motherhood burden is a little too hard to bear sometimes.
Is there something you’re harboring in your heart, have you taken on too much responsibility elsewhere, have you not put your flesh under subjection, is it the enemy testing your trust in God?
When you figure out what it is, when you can place the blame on the actual problem, you can also do things to fix it.
How do you handle mothering when you’re at your wit’s end?
Please don’t think I share these things because I am the perfect wife and mother. I Am Not. I am a flawed human being, saved by grace.
It has taken me nearly 12 years to figure this much out and I am learning daily…and sometimes hourly. Some days I sit and wallow, but thankfully with good friends and my new Bible Reading Plan, those days are fewer and farther between.
Enter the Mother’s Day Giveaway
Mother’s Day is a day set aside for making moms feel extra special and extra appreciated. This year Mother’s Day might look a little different for some people. No heading off to church, no special brunch at your favorite place, no gathering with extended family and friends. Just because things may be different, doesn’t mean the occasion should be any less special.
I’ve gotten together with 24 of my blogging friends with the desire to bless FIVE moms this Mother’s Day (we really would love to bless you all) and make your Mother’s Day even more memorable.
We are giving away 5 $100 gift cards to the place of your choice, from the following options:
- Hobby Lobby
- Restaurant of choice
- Grocery store of choice
It’s our hope and prayer that your family, and most importantly you sweet mama, are blessed even more so during a Mother’s Day unlike any other. May this be a time of new experiences, new traditions, and new peace.
To enter for your chance to win, simply use the Rafflecopter form below to enter. Now I know that is quite a few entries, but each of these bloggers generously chipped in their own money to bring you this giveaway, so I hope you will take the time to do all of the entries; it will bless them in return. And hey, the more entries you do, the better your odds are at winning!
Giveaway end May 8th at 11:59pm EDT. The winner will have 48 hours to respond to email to claim the prize. By entering this giveaway you will be added to the email lists of the participating bloggers. Please be sure to read the Terms & Conditions upon entering the giveaway.
Want another opportunity to win?! There is a second giveaway with the same exact prizes (just different bloggers) that you can enter as well!
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