Modesty was not a problem for me growing up. As I’ve mentioned before in my story, I was anorexic, so tight fitting or short clothes was something I stayed away from. But as I got healthy, I started wearing tighter clothing. I wore this clothing through college and even for a while after I got married. Until one day…
One day my husband told me that while he enjoyed seeing me in those clothes, he did not enjoy other men looking at me the way they did when I wore those clothes. Now, keep in mind I didn’t wear plunging necklines or skirts/shorts that barely covered my rear…they were just tighter than what he preferred me to wear in public. Thus began my journey to Biblical modesty.
Even though I got rid of the clothes my husband asked me not to wear, it wasn’t until we had our first daughter that I began seeing just how immodest our society had become. Boys were easy to dress – shirts, shorts (which were usually longer) and pants. Girls…not so much. As I shopped for our oldest daughter, I saw clothes in the girls section that even I wouldn’t wear. They were off the shoulder, seductive clothes being played off as “cute” for the sake of sales. I had a flash forward of life in 10 years and was absolutely HORRIFIED!
Being tall myself, I knew that my daughter would likely be tall as well. If she had long legs like me, it was going to be difficult to find shorts and even skirts to fit her modestly. I already knew the horror that lie ahead. I lived it. It was then that I started reading about modesty in the Bible and really listening to what God wanted me to do with my clothing.
After much prayer and discussion with my husband, we both decided that skirts would be the most modest for the girls in our family. Now…before you go accusing me of being “that girl” or “like the Duggars,” our decisions were made out of careful prayer, not legalistic rules that we needed to follow.
By no means do I think you must wear skirts only to be a Christian.
By no means do I think those who don’t wear skirts are sinners.
Modesty is a matter of the heart. Modesty is something between you, God and your parents or spouse as you study God’s word and seek His will for your life. Some may come to the conclusion of skirts only, while others may see no need to wear skirts all the time. It is a matter of the heart. This is something I have tried to stress to my daughters as they are getting older. One loves to wear skirts and dresses, while the other one wants to know why she always has to wear them and not pants like her brothers.
While we do own a few pairs of pants for the girls to wear when we feel they would be more modest than skirts – riding horses (for young girls), hiking, playing in the snow (under their snow suits), etc. – we still feel skirts are more appropriate for them to wear most of the time. We have explained this on their level and continue to teach them this is something Mommy and Daddy felt the Lord telling us to do.
As they get older, however, I want them to come to Modesty on their own. I don’t want to squash their personal sense of style with rules and regulations, but come to an understanding of modesty according to God’s word. That’s why I was SO excited to see this new 5-week Bible Study on Modesty from Lindsey of The Road to 31 and Richele of Under the Golden Apple Tree. While it is still too old for my girls, I am thrilled to see such a well thought out and put together study.
What I LOVE about It’s the Heart, NOT the Hemline:
- The format – Not just the 5-week format, but also the Daily and Weekly breakdown. I also love the activities included to help guide them to an understanding of Biblical modesty. The reflection questions are a great way to open up conversation between daughters and parents as they walk through this study together.
- Emphasis on Scripture – I love that this study includes so many great scriptures to not only memorize, but reflect on and dissect to fully see and understand God’s heart on the matter of modesty.
- Samantha says… – This section at the end of every week is written by a 17-year old and gives great perspective from a peer. Samantha is wise beyond her years and does a wonderful job of concluding each week’s lessons with a relevant thought.
- Age group – I know this may seem strange, but I love that this study can be used with girls as young as 7 or 8 up through high school. Some quick, simple tweeks and you have a wonderful study for young girls. Add in some additional Bible reading, journaling and possibly research and you’ve got a fantastic study for high schoolers.
- Extras – there are so many extras in this study. From printable Scripture Cards to Memory Verse Games to different Activities such as DIY Spa Night recipes, a Prayer Log, Notes of Encouragement and Wall Art to use along this journey.
This study is absolutely FANTASTIC and needed in today’s society. Girls are being pushed and shoved in to immodest behavior and clothing for the sake of popularity and even love. Help your daughter realize that God has MORE planned for her life as a modest, Christian woman.
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